The Devil You Don’t Know: Marriage, Mental Health & the Patterns That Shape Us
The Devil You Don’t Know is a candid mental-health and culture podcast hosted by married counselors Lindsay and Cleveland Oakes. Through humor, personal stories, honest disagreements, and practical psychology, they uncover the hidden patterns affecting our relationships, identities, families, and emotional lives. From mindfulness and healing to marriage, society, and the everyday messiness of being human, Lindsay and Cleveland explore what it takes to recognize our patterns—and choose something different.
The Devil You Don’t Know: Marriage, Mental Health & the Patterns That Shape Us
Latest Episodes
Let the Kids Figure it Out: You Can Love Them Without Managing Them
You can love your adult kid deeply and still stop managing their life. After a week of exhausting college move-ins, we zoom out into the real topic: what it means to “let the kids figure it out” when they’re grown, opinionated, and sometimes st...
If You Think This One Is About You, Maybe It Is: The Movie Of Me
If you’ve ever read something, heard a conversation, or listened to a podcast and thought, “Wait, are they talking about me?” you already know the feeling we’re unpacking. We call it the “Movie Of Me” the nonstop inner production where we assum...
Everyday Generosity
The fastest way to change your day might be smaller than you think. We’re talking about the smallest moments of generosity: letting someone merge, softening your tone, giving a real compliment, or choosing a kinder story about why someone didn’...
What If Peace Is The Most Powerful Choice
One unexpected phone call can hijack a perfect day, and that’s exactly why we wanted to talk about peace of mind while we’re sitting in a place that feels genuinely calm. We’re on vacation in Virgin Gorda, soaking up quiet mornings and slow rhy...
Loving-Kindness Meditation For People You Can’t Stand
Anger can feel like armor, but what if it’s actually the thing that keeps you stuck? We talk about metta loving-kindness meditation as a real-world tool for emotional regulation, stress relief, and staying grounded when someone cuts you off, ta...
Fan Mail
Hello Kiddos! This is your friend, M.C. It's 76 degrees here @ home, so I figured I would go for a stroll. I just listened to your latest podcast, Finding Paradise In Nevis. My thoughts: You have excellent chemistry. Cleveland, you can be 💯 in taking care of yourself (even if you "sometimes" (once in a while) don't eat healthy but you need sleep! Besides getting fresh air, that is why I went for a stroll. I figured it might help with my getting a good nights sleep. Let stress over any thing. Give your worries to the Lord. Lindsay, please drive safely. I like you, would want to drive myself, even if I were only going 10-miles an hour. That right hand steering business is scary but I know you'll take your time. You got this, girl. You got this. I shared your miracle story on Easter with my family and also have told my friends. We all agree, God used you as an instrument. There truly is a reason for every good and not so good thing that happens to us. Wear socks. Don't laugh, but my feet get sunburned on the beach. Socks help! LOL! Enjoy the rest of your stay in paradise and stay safe. 🙏 ❌🅾️❌
Floral Park, New York
